|On our honeymoon|
As I thought back to those sessions, here are some wonderful tidbits that came to mind (note: many of these tips are about "fighting the good fight!"):
1) When you get married, you are a family, kids or no. My godfather told us, "You are the cake, the kids are the icing."
2) Next are some fighting rules: When fighting, don't use absolutes like "never" or "always." "You never do such-and-such..."
3) No silent treatment or walking off in the middle of an argument (unless you both agree to take a break from it for awhile).
4) Avoid fighting when you're tired or hungry. If you take care of those problems, you may realize you didn't really have anything to fight over!
6) I can't remember if this came from our premarital counseling or not, but my hubby and I personally decided to try really hard to avoid raising our voices when we disagree. We have been so glad we made that decision up front, and it has helped many an argument dissipate.
7) Kiss and make up!
8) When you think a compliment about your spouse, go ahead and say it!
9) Read every good book you can about marriage. When you have kids, do the same concerning parenting.
10) The last bit was just an encouragement that your marriage can be a huge tool in the hand of God for loving others! Isn't that a wonderful privilege?
Did you receive any helpful advice prior to marriage that you'd like to share?
Linked to Top Ten Tuesday.
P.S. Tomorrow comes the long awaited second installment of my interview with my mom!