Tuesday, June 22, 2010

Top Ten Ways I Want to Support My Hubby

So, I've told you about our two year grad school situation and The Less Project. Yesterday, instead of dreading the absence of my husband (someone told me I will be a PA widow, which sounds rather dramatic), I did a little brainstorming about ways that I can love and support my husband in this super-busy time.

1) Pack him lunches. A simple and easy way to love him! Some days he may only have a 15 minute lunch break...so it's a packed lunch or else he'll be living off bagels from the bagel place...which doesn't sound good for his waistline OR the budget. *wink* I can pack a yummy lunch for him and throw in notes every once in awhile.

2) Wake up early with him. Nothing inspires you to wake up early and spend time with God so much as a wife who stays curled up in bed, right? Yeah, not so much. We're going to have to be disciplined together.

3) Try hard not to make every third sentence out of my mouth be, "Honey can you please....______?" This habit, acquired from many sessions of nursing where I got all settled in with baby and then remembered everything I forgot to put within arm's reach....water, chapstick, my book, etc...will need to go by the wayside.

4) Keep his scrubs clean. He'll be working in a cadaver lab. You don't want to wear those scrubs two days in a row!

5) Make him happy studying snacks, like crackers with cream cheese topped with craisins forming a smiley face. Delivered with a kiss. :D

6) Help him study. I won't understand everything he's learning, but I can at least listen while he reviews things out loud. I can also give him the space he needs when he just needs to study by himself. Which will be a lot.

7) Structure the day so that the evenings aren't full of things I could have done earlier (like making phone calls or blogging). This will allow for time as a family when he gets home.

8) Call friends and have them pray with me when I am feeling overwhelmed/lonely. Try not to let it all bottle up until I explode all over my poor unsuspecting husband.

9) Have mommy time. It just follows that I will go crazy if I try to be and do everything like some sort of super woman.

10) Pray for him. This is really number one.

How have you learned to support your husband during stressful times? I'd love to learn...

P.S. If you know me, you know I'm a list kind of gal. Support my habit and leave comments. ;) And check out all the other lists at Top Ten Tuesday.


  1. these are GREAT. very inspirational for me too!

  2. My husband and I are in the same kind of situation so reading this post really enspiered me. I do some of this stuff already but it made me want to be more committed to them.

  3. Those are great!! I needed to hear some of those reminders today!

  4. Such a great list! #2 though really convicts me! I'm not asleep when my hubby wakes up but I'm not "fully awake" if you know what I mean.

  5. My husband is a morning person and I am ... not. I keep working on being awake before he's out the door. I want to be able to cook breakfast for him, too.

    And #3 made me laugh! That is SO how it is with a nursing baby. DH becomes the go-pher.

  6. My husband is military. These are the things I do to help him out.

    *He loves baths, so when I know he's coming home, I try to have the bath ready for him about the time he'll be walking in the door.
    *I let him rant. He doesn't always want my opinion, sometimes he just needs to get it out of his system.
    *Tell him I love him every chance I get.

  7. Wow. I need to take a page from your book. My husband isn't busy in the same way but what a gift you are giving him!

  8. I need to be better at supporting my husband; he works 60+ hours a week, plus has to do all the father/husband stuff. He never gets any free time; maybe if I try to serve him more, he'll have opportunities to relax in the middle of the busyness!

  9. Avoid the temptation to micromanage his time so that he can have more wife or family time.
    I had a hard time with this when my husband was working a lot of hours plus trying to pass a certification exam. Trust that he loves you and don't believe any lie that says that says otherwise.
    I love these! You're so thoughtful and smart. :)

  10. Christina: Good stuff. Especially about micromanaging his time. I had to learn some about that even when Andrew was deployed and spent his time 7000 miles away! Learned lots about not being in control...I'm guessing that issue might rear it's head again.

  11. I really appreciate the wisdom in these suggestions! #7 was particularly helpful for me. One other thing I would add is to remember to exress thankfulness (sincerely) on a daily basis. :0) ~Laurie


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